Who Does Your Dog See You As?

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Personality Shining Through

This is my dog: Karlie. The happiest, most genuinely affectionate dog I’ve ever met, and that’s definitely not a biased opinion. She has not a mean bone in her body and the only time she barks is when you tell her to. Now, I was walking around the house the other night, deeply trying to figure out what topic to write about and here comes ole Karlie. Hopping herself onto the couch and laying herself next to me, begging to be pet. It really got me thinking.. How does your dog actually see you?

As for most people, we put a lot of thought into how people see us, what people think of us, and how can we improve our outward image. I believe it’s common and natural to care about what others think of us, but it often truly gets the best of us, and that’s exactly what we were hoping to show: The Best of Us. If given time for that subconscious thought to become a conscious habit, we will begin to measure our self worth by other’s opinions. I don’t believe that’s how it should be, we should not think like that. Our self worth should be of utmost importance. If you ever begin to see yourself in this thought process, ask yourself some questions. How much importance to they have in my life, and Should their opinion matter? I think this thought process is motivated by our semi-selfish means, and myself am guilty of having selfish habits. It is a natural trait all living beings have. But instead of looking for approval of others, just imagine what your dog thinks of you. Most dogs have genuine love for their companions. They do not care about how you look, they don’t judge, and they don’t reject your attention (unlike cats). We often reject their attention when we have no reason not to. I am guilty of that one, and it’s another exhibit of a selfish trait.

You are your dog’s favorite companion, brother, and friend.

Now imagine if we felt that way about ourselves. I think we would be truly happy people, and would begin to shed that happiness to others around us. I also believe that we should spend a lot of time in our lives slightly undoing all the natural not-so-good humanistic qualities we all have (ie. Selfishness). If we removed selfishness and judgement, we ourselves could potentially see ourselves like our dog see’s us as. We would be truly happy people. We cannot determine our self worth by the mistakes and sins we commit. We do not need to look at what we’ve done wrong in life, but what we’ve done correctly. This Perspective on things is a stepping stone to feeling joy. True joy is unlike happiness. Joy is more inward, and seeing yourself as how your dog see’s you is a great way to experience true joy. Another one of those traits I believe make it all worth it In the End. So how do you see yourself?

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Your Hands and What You Do With Them

There’s a famous question everyone has asked themselves at least one time in their lives and that is, “Why do bad things happen to such good people?” It brings up a very valid point. Pain, illness, abuse, brokenness, betrayal, sorrow, injuries, disappointment, and heartache happen to people on a day to day basis and many times they do not seem to have any purpose whatsoever. Why is a very good question.

I believe pain is inevitable. Jesus said that, “You will have suffering in this world.” John 16:33

Not might, but will. It will happen.

The main idea is: when something unfortunate happens in this world, you never get a definite answer as to why. There’s more happening than our human eyes can comprehend. Someday, We’ll see things in high definition, but as of right now.. We’re stuck with cruddy standard television. Understanding why there is tragedy in this world isn’t about what is here and now, it’s about the peripheral details that are obscured from our view. A great analogy of this is in one of my favorite books, The Five People You Meet in Heaven. It simply speaks about how the smallest of things and people have the largest impact on our lives, but that’s an entire blog post in itself I’m sure will occur in the future.

These unfortunate situations to me act like a conduit, or a means of transition or transportation: an arrow. These arrows lead us in the right direction, towards conclusions that I believe satisfy what our heart truly needs and desires. We only have to let it.

To me, many unfortunate situations come to be out of another person’s bad choices. Now I don’t think someone falling and spraining a knee *cough cough* is out of choice, but simply choosing to do good or bad. A person can either choose to do good, or choose to do bad, and those outcomes can have an effect on others. We can choose:

  • To Do Good
  • To Do Bad
  • To Do Nothing

The last two are what causes the pain and suffering.. Confused?

Here’s an example: People ask God why he doesn’t fix the suffering like famine , but to me I know that the world produces enough food to feed everyone, but it is own irresponsibility and selfishness caused by our hands prevents us from eradicating all world hunger. Completely out of God’s will. This same example could be used in a personal sense, heartbreak, sorrow, disappointment, etc. are human feelings in which we have complete control over. It is a conscious decision and we need to learn that whatever is causing such pain, needs to go.

Ultimately, what I’ve seen is that God uses that pain to draw us closer to him; to sharpen our character, to influence others for him. He can draw something good from our pain in a plethora of ways, only if we trust and follow him; and that’s something I find worth it In the End.

Love Isn’t an Emotion: The Mathematics of Sustainment

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In modern society, there’s nothing more emphasized and written about than finding “the one” or seeking happiness through other people. Humans urge to feel love. Some humans urge to show love. Then there’s that majority who seek love through other people. This is one of the profound reasons why relationships fail.

Most relationships have a cycle, and there are three major transitions between them:

1. The beginning “excitement” stage where individuals anticipate their partners calls, need their approval, want their touch, and enjoy their idiosyncrasies.
2. The middle “contentment” stage where things begin to slow down, become less enjoying or exciting.
3. The last “dull” stage where all the original idiosyncrasies that you once enjoyed now are a burden. It’s a subsequent stage where individuals begin to wonder if their relationship is ‘worth it’. You begin to reflect back on when it was enjoyable and wonder what happened, and this is when things tend to break down and/or end.

The key to succeeding in a relationship isn’t looking for the right person through trial and error, but learning to love the person you’ve found.

Individuals blame their partners for their unhappiness and begin to search for outside sources of enjoyment such as through work, excessive hobbies, abusive substances, or even through another person, but the answer to the burning question doesn’t lie outside your relationship, but inside of it.

Sustaining love is not a passive, non laborious job. It takes effort, day in and day out. It takes energy. You have to understand what to do in order to continue. Love is not a mystery. Love is not an emotion. Love is an action, a decision so to speak. There are laws to relationships just as there are laws to Physics, if you fail at one thing, the results are predictable. God determines who walks into your life, it is your choice as to whom you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go of. That takes effort, emotional strife, and time. It might be hard, it might seem impossible, but its just another one of those things worth it In The End.

Mistakes and Fate

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Yesterday I missed class purely out of laziness on my part. I decided to just not go, but my mother and I went to Tulsa, a smaller city in Oklahoma and had some much needed bonding. It was great, but I came to school today and for the FIRST time this year, I had no idea what we were learning in class. These algorithms and postulates pasted all over the boards were introduced the day before and I had missed all of it. I sat there. Completely lost, and refused to ask questions in order not to slow down the rest of the class. I was afraid to make a mistake. This got me thinking. Why do we resent and try to avoid our mistakes? Is it a social thing? Do we believe that we are going to be judged and put down because of it? Is it a window into our own insecurities? I do not know, but I do know we do not need to avoid our mistakes. Our mistakes are what mold us into who we are. Mistakes are something we should use in order to build upon our own character and say, “That’s something I don’t need to do again.” It’s something we should embrace and appreciate. Everything we do is a result of the choices we make, and us as humans tend to want to blame it on other things, and I am all too guilty for this one. We blame our bad decisions on anything except that it was our own intention. Such as the loss of our parents, or on a past relationship gone wrong, or your stressful job. When honestly we are responsible for every decision we make. Period. No one controls our fate except for ourselves. We choose our own destiny. Sounds so cliché, but its true. It takes a complete mental change within ourselves to realize that our decisions, mistakes, and choices are what make us, “us.” God decided that these predicaments were made for us as people, for us to endure and conquer. That they are there for a reason, to make us stronger, to show us a door to something new, or anything that his heart desires us to see. And that’s absolutely amazing. He always continues to astonish me. He is something worth pursuing, and that’s definitely something/someone worth it In the End.